1. “Parenting can be Fun and Easy”
The secret is to “play, old school”
In our series – “Parent to Parent”, I introduce myself and explore the demands and challenges of modern parenting. I remark on the following core themes:
- modern parenting is tough and todays hard working parents need to be praised for trying to be the best parents they can be;
- many societal changes have contributed to the increase in expectations and pressures on modern families;
- the irony is that super parenting may be harming our kids;
- we need to get back to the basic – happy and healthy kids;
- we need to reorient our parenting efforts to include additional goals that ensure our children’s emotional and social success and happiness;
- the Kabooter Knome play concept is an easy and fun tool to help parents reach these important goals.
The series concludes by noting that parents in previous generations and their kids really lucked out. Not only were the expectations and pressures placed on parents less complex and stressful than today, but their kids benefited immensely from the less complicated parenting style.
Close to half a century later, parenting experts can now explain why the unstructured play of the past was so good for kids, their development and their happiness.
Some of these well accepted principles include:
- Imaginative Play – imaginative play is good for kids and is just as important as the 4Rs
- Technology – too much isn’t good for kids
- Creativity – is important for kids and their futures
- Parenting Creativity – parents can feed or steamroll creativity
- Boredom – it’s good for your kids now and then.
- Wisdom – why helping kids collect wisdom is so important for their development and future
- Chores – why chores are important for kids
- Laughter – kids and parents benefit
- You Can Have It All – how to be a good parent and have fun with your kids
This is good news! These truths offer a clear and simple roadmap for parents to lighten up and have fun with their kids.
The challenge for today’s parents is to avoid turning these truths into yet another onerous task they need to add to their list of how to be a good parent. The beauty of this knowledge is that it should empower today’s parents to do the opposite. Armed with this knowledge, parents should breathe a sigh of relief, lighten up, reevaluate their core values and priorities, slow down and be present with their children. I hope this affords parents the permission to reduce their family’s scheduled, structured activities, and encourages them to participate as a family in imaginative, silly play, share some laughs and build lasting joyful moments.
The series of blogs that follow will tackle each topic and offer easy and fun ways to apply/practice them as parents.